“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
I have often wondered why some people in positions of significant responsibility, whether in government or in business, don’t provide the kind of leadership we expect i.e., leadership that exemplifies meaning and significance.
Many leaders today seem to lack the depth and substance that commands our admiration and respect for them. Their lack of clarity and candour becomes painfully apparent when we witness their paralyzing indecision in times of crisis.
You may have come across the question: Are you ready, willing and able? These three words, ‘ready’, ‘willing’, and ‘able’, when lived by an individual make him/her a potent force to be reckoned with. Readiness implies preparedness, and that’s easy to see; ability is determined by competence needed to effectively deal with a variety of managerial challenges – this is self-evident. However, your willingness is an abstract quality, and one which can be felt by others. Willingness refers to your enthusiasm and eagerness to achieve what you passionately believe in and desire. It’s your calling from within.
Such a calling is beautifully expressed by Peter Koestenbaum . He says:
“Unless the distant goals of meaning, greatness, and destiny are addressed, we can’t make an intelligent decision about what to do tomorrow morning – much less set strategy for a company or for a human life. Nothing is more practical than for people to deepen themselves.
The more you understand the human condition, the more effective you are as a businessperson. Human depth makes business sense.”
How we respond in our own spheres of influence to increasing ambiguity in our environment caused by significant geo-political shifts, climate change, growing social injustice, poverty, the AIDS pandemic etc., says a lot about us. A ship anchored in a storm does not lose its bearings.
Why do leaders prefer to sit on the fence even though the stakes are high? There is no better place to commence our search for acquiring greater depth and understanding than a dictionary. I consulted Random House Webster’s dictionary and looked up the word ‘will’. Will is the faculty of conscious and deliberate action; the power of choosing and deciding; and an expression of our purpose or determination; wish or desire. At the heart of our decisiveness lies clarity in our personal and shared values. Values act as our personal anchors.
The degree to which you care for any cause or situation is directly proportional to the intensity of your willingness to lead. An apathetic disposition hardly suits a person who is entrusted with great responsibility. However, caring alone will not do. Your inner calling will be ignited when you exercise your power to make choices, particularly when faced with tough situations.
Leaders face a multitude of dilemmas. For example, what would you do as a CEO, if one of your managers takes you into confidence and admits to embezzling fifty thousand dollars? If the manager had not trusted you, you might never have discovered who committed the act. It was the manager’s trust in you that led you to this discovery.
Do you keep that bond of confidence and somehow deal with the misdemeanor privately? Or do you report the manager to concerned authorities? In others words, do you uphold the principle of trust or expose the criminal act? By making the matter public you will send out a signal in your company that trusting does not pay – in fact, it can be detrimental to your business. It would breed fear and doubt amongst your people, which is counterproductive to creating an empowered culture based on trust, vital for remaining competitive. You know how bureaucracy in its extreme can make any enterprise unresponsive and slow.
When faced with difficult choices some leaders hope that passage of time will take care of the problem. I recall an incident some years ago, when a bank manager was sitting on a loan application from one of his staff for over a month. On enquiry, he declared smugly, that in time, the applicant will soon realize he does not need the loan! Well, sometimes such a tactic may work, but mostly it doesn’t! In fact, it’s in bad taste, particularly if the need of the applicant is genuine and urgent. In this case, the loan applied for was to pay accumulated medical bills of his children.
It is our every day decisions, both tactical and strategic, that mark the trajectory of our life into the future. Even though most of us realize the importance of being decisive in our lives, it becomes exceedingly difficult if you are not clear about your own values and purpose.
Richard Branson recently wrote in his diary: “What are the motives of doing such things? A month ago, I was at an all-time low. I seemed to have run out of a purpose in my life. I’d proved myself in many areas. I’d just turned forty. I was seeking a new challenge…” Later he reflected on this entry and remarked, “When I re-read what I had written, I realized that as a businessman, I can do a great deal of good.” He went on to say, “I meet incredible people like Nelson Mandela, world leaders like the Russian premier, and people of vast wealth like Bill Gates and Microsoft’s lesser-known co-founder Paul Allen. In fact, people in business and the very wealthy are in a unique position. They can connect with everyone, whether high or low, in any country, through a network of goodwill.”
To help you gain further clarity on your purpose, try answering the following questions: What is the meaning of your life? Why do you live? What principles do you stand for? How would you like to be remembered after you are gone from this world?
Your top-of-mind, one line answers to such, seemingly simple questions, will be very revealing. They will help you focus on what it means for you to be alive today and how you see greatness. You will also gain a perspective on how you see your personal destiny. As a result of this kind of reflection, you are likely to find courage and power that will make you decisive – an attractive and an essential quality in a leader.
Intensity for what you care for, gives rise to courage. Courage is the quality of your mind that enables you to face difficulty or danger without fear. Fear can be your worst enemy. It paralyzes you and steals from you your will to lead. You can, therefore, cultivate your will to lead, by overcoming your fears, which are mostly unfounded. Fear of failure, fear of losing face and fear of the unknown are the most common. The good news is that our fears are mostly false.
Koestenbaum , in his search for a new language of effective leadership, leaves us with a profound question: “How to reconcile the often-brutal realities of business with basic human values in order to create a new language of effective leadership?”
Get anchored to sound principles. They will enable you to stay the course in any storm.
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